Your Time with Kim 10/18/10 No Music

" And what your country. Don't worry I didn't make it. Explain things are just caught a little different -- just like they're both of them."

" Welcome to you what time -- Iverson -- your girlfriend and she's here you know."

" Get this I know that a lot of the guys are going to be happy here this and but apparently Russian doctor says sexual satisfaction works unimaginable miracles on the human body. In fact he says all these patients should have regular sex he says it's one of the most enjoyable ways of course get fit healthy we know that. In fact just a few minutes of rolling around in bed. Burns as have to add burned as many calories is half an hour jogging on the -- now believe it or not -- goes beyond that not only are you breaking a sweat getting a workout when your. You know hot and heavy in the sack but also breast cancer rates decreased among women who have sex at least three times a week. Ladies. Also demand. The men who also -- happiness in the bedroom. Live longer and are less likely to get prostate cancer so if you wanna prevent cancer this fault you know we are and breast cancer awareness month. So ladies three times a week you're reducing your chances of getting breast cancer. I say that's. A good thing incident just you know I mean of course filed a -- into -- and also go in the bedroom and you know it doesn't pink sheets of -- out MA. I'm right coming up next we got keep the platter he may be telling us how the world we're going to be dealing with their student -- cigarette it's your time -- and give her calls."

" Indeed 89 called him but gaining favor can you just talk to me for one Norman it seriously because I'm like I'm like halfway there you people ever think about -- and somebody's hands -- nested. Well my first choice of Stewart and boutique on Rodeo Drive but this should be okay. Nice person tall gangly."

" How to deal with them --"

" I have ordered about bad puppy -- sweatshirt sort of and student loan we get to the bad -- scriptures if you like I don't know how -- by them. How exactly can relate fat -- what a waste of money right we've put active at -- and loans I've got lots on anyone tell you how many."

" Yeah it's. What's funny at least particular amount usually when you're eighteen to 22 of course people go to school cut those -- too but. You really don't think. About the concept of paying him back because he just. One them so you can go to school. And it just it just gets worse and worse and worse as we go along you know the last thought put into it. Okay. Places in. Order for it. You know it if you were doomed to -- right now the number one thing is even if you picture college. These are just not the economic times to go to a very expensive college until you figure out what you wanna do. I -- it -- deal but if you don't know what you wanna do maybe go to much less expensive college maybe not only for your parents' perspective but your own. In -- going to pay off the last thing you wanna do is continue to dip further pitino came you can put -- firm."

" Oh -- forever never never."

" And they can always there's always a reason to defer them and those big -- they would off the hook a lot to do that might be just keeps pushing back we pay them off I. They would -- support Barack Obama just paid off his student loans two years ago."

" Yeah my dad just barely pay his off a few years back I mean. They kinda can last forever but the good thing about him is that they're so low interest and I heard that you're not supposed to pay them back to -- you have like a car house is paid off first is that true."

" Yeah yeah absolutely I mean you don't want to ignore the fact that your paper about but you'd certainly want to. It's the try to get rid of him because -- can hold you back financially prevention programs saving money even -- from statements for your own children's. College education you never wanted to come but he never really wanna consolidate student loans to a private company because if you do that then only can interest rates go up. But also would the court investor loans although specific technical or maybe practical is that they're forgive a bullet death. So that happens to you they go away but a lot of times we consolidate them that they've become the responsibility of your state and that's a good."

" Okay. I have a few questions -- loans. If you're in school and you need to buy a car -- used to student loan money to buy a car."

" Now now I wouldn't think so I mean obvious because and its sister. I wouldn't do it to lower interest rates. And it drags -- the payment does such -- pain on the your pain on them. The out loans so much longer because the parlance for five years you loan payments like ten years I end up being more. For the -- brother would do."

" What's a reasonable amount to -- at a school it."

" The average student right now exits with twenty grand. Okay -- on and that's brutal I mean -- there's all sorts of ways that you can get out of college with a student loan debt. Simply -- and working your way through maybe not staying on campus which is not exactly what everybody wants to hear right but I think people need to realize we're still at about 10% unemployment we're going to be there for awhile. So actually in school no job and twenty -- in debt is not exactly a deal so you. You have to think differently mean dissident. Five years ago obviously. When it was a little easier to get away without which student loan debt."

" I have 40000 dollars and student -- but I only pay I pay about 250 a month. In my student loans."

" I I -- I hate I don't say that's not bad but I mean obviously had a lot of doctors lawyers."

" Oh gosh I X makes screaming yet he has a 180000 dollars in student debt from medical school."

" Yeah it's it's. It's brutal the other thing people do is win maybe you lose your job or something -- don't know what to do then. Good world heckled about school. And that's when it gets in trouble would have -- careers student and keep and of student loans -- got nothing else to do. And that it's tough to."

" Right people thank you for educating -- flattering to our financial expert go to his website -- the planner dot com gravest books sixty days to change daily how to guide with actionable tips. For improving your financial life right coming up next a direct in the show his girlfriend's. Oh she lies she lied to you gotta find out what she lied about -- yes that's -- this is your time antivirus and so what do you do when you find your partners lied to you this guy writes in the show and he's been with his girlfriend for about three years. Well when they started dating you know shall we said that she had slot with seven people. That's what he's believed for the last three years she is spent with seven people. Well recently. A friend of hers who's also a friend of his. Kind of spilled the beans instead on and and and and now she's been with way more than seven people more like seventeen people. I. Nice areas he's furious right to the show he says. He's not sure you can trust her he doesn't understand like why she just wouldn't have been honest about it. And you know of course from the woman's perspective it's well I mean if she was honest with you still have dated her if she was -- us what you thought differently of her. You know but she said -- and and all was fine until he found out that it was more like seventeen so. But -- about the sub time and yeah I about this -- yeah I have in the past. You don't like about this now."

" I didn't for some reason in this currently have I didn't but I have in the past it was -- nearly two are very. It is like that's a guy is funny yeah they don't your seventeen. You know it's like. But you're bound to get out if it is outline it and it's not more than I have -- to brighten up like the magic number -- seven. She's like I'll just eliminate the other ten what Canada's and Brad and talisman. Telstra I think I. -- I. -- so what do you think do you think he has a right to be upset. Because you -- a lot of -- that lie about this item the answer it yet that's what does it matter it's there her past. It doesn't matter how many people she's been I think it matter I mean I do you think."

" Matters. I don't think now at this point three years and the relationship matters. But I think in the beginning it matters I personally likes now how many people a person a slot where it because I feel like it gives. Some sort of indication to their past. I'm not necessarily connect. I've dated guys who slept with hundreds of women and I've dated guys who have the where virgins and I don't discriminate against him just because of their and their number necessarily but I feel like it gives me a good idea. As what their mentality was -- Over the past years. How they operated. Maybe -- howdy viewed the opposite sex drug guy who slept with hundreds of women. He didn't care about all of them right so clear right so clearly if he's going to be -- engaging in intercourse with -- with hundreds of women. He didn't care about all of them and maybe he. Which means that he's got the ability. To just shut off his emotions and maybe a guy who's only there with one or two people are virgin on the other hand. It's something way more meaningful to him. So it just gives me a better insight into. The per cent who they are how they think how to operate released how they operate kids and in now. I. I think people can't change I think it have to be something drastic. I don't think command his sup with 400 women. All the setting is an Angel who changes his ways and cares about every single person comes across in -- a sudden like discovers gotten. And you know goes to religion and completely changes himself in -- hiding something drastic has to happen in order for person totally change. But you know I think that's where his guys coming from I think he feels like well. Yeah -- she told me originally that was seventeen. Maybe he could have figured out you know. Maybe in a -- low self esteem issues. It was just ground that may be she was a wild party girl maybe you know but these are things that he didn't get to find out because she lied about our number. Because she said 7030. Dot OK she's just Tina. Had maybe gotten any relationship at senate. In a study finds out that she was dancing wildly on tables at this."

" issue for other ones out all that no different and remember Ohio that was one movie. Can't look. That went crazy it's tough to remember a that's. -- open up the phone -- you think this guy has a right to be a sad is this deal breaker in the relationship my number 888. 925554."

" Yeah so direct the show we spent with his girlfriend for three years she's always told him that she slept with seven people before hand. He recently found out that it was actually seventeen. That he is an area sad. Feels betrayed wondering if he should be upset about this high Russell. Do you think this guy has -- be upset about his girlfriend lying."

" I think they have the right -- about -- not so much in the fact it was Batman guy is. But you know it's gonna help someone in something like bat I think you should be honest because later -- comer on the budget."

" Yeah -- you know how many people lie about that that is I mean that women especially lie about their number because they don't they don't. As he liked to seem like yes lots."

" Well that's true and I understand that it's just right from day one and I think it. Honesty is important."

" Yeah after I mean I definitely I -- definitely see which are saying but I think that the women to steal. May be like they'd be judged unfairly if they really were to give their true number but I -- and Russell thank you. Thank you Erica. Forty thanks to the --"

" I'm okay want to hit my perspective -- I can't be. The idea that would ever got -- and they should not -- story because ballot -- 13 of what they actually have done right so I actually ruined. My relationship. But it telling the guys they're really not."

" To any topic you it was three times the amount."

" Yeah I'm not Ayatollah like thirteen or whatever and you know I don't quite -- and so then it was like you and you don't like thirty people yeah us. 200 strikes you know any -- it made it a point oh. --"

" you know what you've got a good point -- got a good point maybe women have to live because the men are already gonna think it's multiply it by threes we might as well not -- three Intel on the number that -- like that's funny I play it good point Erica thank yeah. But. Hey RBI. So should -- be -- sat."

" and that aspect part of the break intact but it's a question you really act like detective it's -- air pack. Mean it -- made a lot of it a lot I'm. Alert. You know I can't -- I don't think it got it you want people aren't yet."

" And I you know I don't agree to their RBI I'm gonna say that I think it's an important thing to now I think absolutely you should know person's sexual history for one for your own medical health. And here."

" History -- Eat it maybe but not at."

" Now there's like there's definitely -- mentality you can't tell me that somebody who's up with a hundred people is. Is the exact same assembly is up with two is just not the way it as -- and we got to own up to that as a society we've got to own up to it. I think I you know let our -- instead actually the same people from the time we're like fifteen. I don't think I change a whole lot. Out of -- a whole lot I think that if you got out of your relationship if you. Where party and -- up when you were maybe seventeen or eighteen years old. And now mean you've calmed down but if you get out of your relationship. Or something to happen you you have that you have the propensity to potentially go back and party it up. It. -- I guess I'm -- their hair -- People definitely learned but I still think that whatever. You did your past it's important for somebody to know. We can't only share the good in not talk about the bat because all of that shapes a person. It. -- Okay thank you -- I just don't understand is every time we have this discussion on the show. When it comes to the number of people you've slept with or cheating in the past people say oh you don't need to know about that. But let me ask you if the person was a drag act in the past would you wanna know about it today. Yes in a purse and had been divorced in the past for married in the past when you wanna know about that today yes I mean I think been bankrupt in the past would you wanna know about that -- I don't understand why this is the one thing we say we don't need to know about it. When everything shapes a person everything it's -- when you going to a relationship you wanna have your eyes wide open and because your investing your most precious asset your hearts. Is being invested into this relationship but I don't think people should lie about this I think he has a right to be upset emailed me Yemeni dilemmas -- your time in dot com. This."

" What are how many of us right now our."

" Longing for a lost love in a loss to -- Those somebody from your past that you just think she now. I just wonder what would have happened between answer that was the one that got away your relationship wasn't allowed to really fully grown. -- had a lost loved."

" Ayman have a hint of on but nothing that it is sleepover. -- that it -- somebody along the way that my it is. T have my curiosity. Maybe in elements and -- they can even think of that person right now are you just guessing maybe now I can --"

" Malle. Rekindled love -- Q -- you know that's already be talking of this -- reaction a couple of guests you. They found each other. Later after the love was once there and lost and then they were able to rekindle it I always love these stories because now. Like he did give a lot of us hope I did have a really cute rekindled love story. When I was fourteen. My second -- ever this guy Josh Lackey was so hot. I was a freshman cheerleader he was a senior football player clients riots and and he was really cute but he was a womanizer but you know of course has fourteenth I didn't know that and I didn't care you know he was just as hot guy. And we wrap party and we ran into the back grooming and he wanted to -- but I had only just one person ever before. So let's just say it was pretty pathetic and I gave him like one pack in and he was like. So Lou news polite about it but he is basically asking can we do more than -- like I don't mean reduction like make out. And I was like."

" I never just anybody really. -- it was that was anyway dead the parent of the party busted up you know busted into the ram and found us and anyway she said demeanor remember when we -- a lot when I was."

" how she says she and he's the player he hasn't won anything with you he just this is it now. Well I didn't believe her and I kept calling men you know saying hi -- halls and he didn't want anything to do with me she was right he just -- and you know -- and make -- the back room that was that. I repeating them and I yeah I you know any time I heard his name I was I just didn't want even hearing it. When. I saw his siblings and a hallway because he graduated in his younger Brothers came and they look exactly like down. I didn't even you know I it was just this naked feeling every time I saw them every time I saw him or heard of him. Twelve years later who. -- in fourteen years later. It was a long time okay. I'm living in Manhattan doing my own thing years have gone by never even thought of him never you know he was like the -- in my fourteen year old existence but then beyond that. -- Years later I'm up on top of this rooftop. Party overlooking the entire Manhattan skyline it was actually incredibly romantic it was just like out of a movie. And this guy lockstep to -- introduced themselves this time Josh. And we start chatting but I just felt like -- recognize this kind there's something about the -- that are recognized but I couldn't place set. We kept talking -- Q he was very intelligent and well to grass to Annie was flirting. Dan it dawned on me. And I said to have our -- for -- And he got this look this is like Bono because he was a total dirt bag back and it was like. Yes and -- And is like. Yes. I. I'm -- Iverson remember we you know -- kissed in the -- party I was. They had a cheerleader bubble why she remembered and we started dating. And it was I mean it was honestly it was like a perfect fairy tale story. He ended up asking me to marry him I gotta tell you that my fourteen year old self on the inside was jumping."

" I'm down I'm like this -- I guess yeah. I and I went."

" When he popped the big question. I did say yes for a minute and then IA in and I just realized she was it that it though I think I was running away -- amnesty of the long lost -- to remain in like I didn't it and then when I kind of snapped back into reality of where I was I was like wait a minute we're not really not compatible we're not. I'm not really happiness relationship. I was just running with the fancy the idea of us from back when we -- high school meeting up again twelve years later. On this rooftop in Manhattan. It was also perfect it was everything my fourteen year old heart desired. I ran away with that and then I stopped dead in my tracks was like oh my gosh I'm so sorry -- can't do this sound. I couldn't ask yes that was yeah happily married you're probably his long lost love. He's the -- and shoots. Now he's happily married he's -- chances happy. So -- underwear model luckiest buying them on his own thing you think he's a great great great -- now I will say he's he turned out to be really great act. I rekindled lover going to be chatting with the psychology professor she's the author of lost and found lovers Faxon fantasies of rekindled. Romance says stick around if you've got along -- he might learn something and."

" Give her called. 8889 called him."

" Know than meeting without even trying to talk you know having your baby and I know I wouldn't say I always take it."

" I don't -- I -- you know you really can't speak we -- huge break now."

" Doctor Nancy Taylor -- has been researching rekindled romance has lost loves and first loves since the nineties. Now she's written a book lost and found lovers Faxon fantasies of rekindled romance says. Doctor Nancy Taylor's welcome to the show."

" I can't thank adding that. So at first of all does everybody have a lost the love I think we all do one that got away now the --"

" No I looked at a population of people that it never try to reunion and I asked them. Questions and I found that most of them don't have a lot process and when you talk about their first love. They're glad to be over it really so let's I don't -- I don't even understand why anybody would Ronald McDonald."

" They just thought everybody. Now as a what percentage would you say doesn't a lost love."

" I -- I can't answer I can only tell you about my population but with them back control group. 30% of them did say if the person walked up in my life again might go with that really yeah that's you know."

" So they would leave the current relationship there and."

" This report from eighteen to 92 years."

" On my gosh what what compels understand the relationship there and if there's one that got away would be the person that they would leave their current four. Why would you can stay."

" Northern not necessarily lead and why they stay because you can latitude people at the same time. So the person that team that may be when you're a teenager he left that person apparently pushed you up parts. Does that wondering what kind of spend what might have been. Comment that runs as it was sort of marine interrupted. And you marry you spell it when you're older and you have a history together and you have children together. And you love that person so. And that's the harm that can."

" Yet that seems like it's -- when they went their reporting to you. Do they love there's about I'm eBay you're saying that if the if the old -- to walk back and they would leave their spouse that'll --"

" While not -- that people are married him. You know somewhere and found aren't gonna."

" But the ones that were married I mean that's what I'm concerned about."

" At that time the extra narrated -- spotted the people who would. Do very -- is running about 62% of -- spam."

" While. Yeah. Wow and it is do you think it is is a good thing that people are still longing for a lost lover do you feel like there's gotta be way to shut this chapter and move on."

" I think it's a good thing it's your first single divorced or went out. But it's the night. The content. And when I wrote the book in 1997. That story first single divorced and widowed and have very high expense -- happy happy story. But when the Internet came along people started just contact with the people they don't wanna reunited it was just. I know why you you know did you become a layer. And they didn't realize the power off. So -- half of the people in the atmospheric say they are very happily married."

" There happily married but they're cheating on their spouse of a long lost love."

" Definitely you don't start by Keating is start with the hi how are you -- and it. The have a life of its own."

" At his interest exit do you recommend that if you're if you're somebody that's. You know you're faced with about ready to cross the altar was somebody if you have somebody in your passed along -- love -- recommend that well maybe you should hold off on getting married."

" That's exactly right by the death of the fact that out Paris. You know that some kind of immediate retirement -- technology called -- fine we just move on and you don't know fine you build on. So when that relationship from the -- just cut off. And people may have -- good -- senate feelings. They try and cut it off and move on and find somebody else but that hasn't gone away."

" Status so heartbreaking because you know a lot of people I think if they have this long lost love. That person might never come back they might never be able to fully. Reconcile that."

" And that is what parents have done that them. Most of these people -- torn apart. My parents."

" My parents. Via a parent that in light of the Paris. So you is there an adult. -- the first time around teenagers and that's."

" Why they separated award went off to the radar or moved away here went to college. Or even Leon. It's great situation all break out. You know timing was stronger or whatever but there was nothing within -- romance that was twelve. There's different we don't on the prairie days you know 10200 years ago people married younger. That you wouldn't have allowed want you to marry your first stop."

" Right. Announced just you know circumstances situations Terry Moran -- Is there anyone you think that at age should avoid contact and lost lots."

" Well if you're not ready annually for relationship right now. Don't don't don't. I just want people to be aware that the feeling -- could."

" Okay so before you start going perusing -- FaceBook fry your long lost loves just down completely fully aware."

" Yeah including people who are happily married yeah because it -- I think Kitna ripped right they're happy. I hasn't ministers and rabbis and and appraisal the they are not looking for anybody somebody. Contacted them."

" And then that's where it started to take out from an. Well that's interesting doctor Nancy -- thank you so much for joining us tonight in I think that this has been an eye opener for many people. Of the book is lost and found lovers facts and fantasies of rekindled romance as you can grab that better website lost lovers. Dot com coming up next we are gonna talk to -- A guest you had to rekindle the long lost love stick around your time it's him Iverson. We've all had that one that got away feeling that can't stop thinking about the one who lost loved. While Michelle Garber who knows this feeling all too -- is here to share her story about how she rekindled her long lost love. Michelle welcome to the show thank you so tell me about your long lost love held three guys when you dated."

" Well we dated at least fourteen and my now husband Allen with about seventeen years old. Pancreas can really take much for your four key. But we didn't he when I was fourteen and Lisa didn't touch him and a way to college. I think I saw him a couple times while he was in college. VH that he was seventeen and eighteen. -- and he wrote me. -- love letters that I had put away. And we discovered them about 25 years later. Comment throughout that time tonight unmarried. And he got married. And parents have a little store and the town where I lived with my husband and my children and nice to -- win. And C -- Sister is okay hot -- asked about how little brother was what is he doing. And so I kinda kept up with his life a little bit at his sister. But I hadn't spoken to him and very long time did. And then moving forward I am so much on the letters again that we think is -- read through them and then. I threw the amount I wish I had kept a -- of content would've been really fun hands. And then and Q4 thousand so -- got divorced. And in 1996. And then I got remarried again and and then in the fall. 2000. My mother called me. And she had moved into an apartment building where a lot of ladies slipped and lost her husband to. -- Called in that different moved in upstairs. Much. Couldn't thank you who would move an upstairs in her apartment. And then she proceeds to tell me do you remember Allen and his mom moved upstairs. Ensemble. And I that -- really consistent. And -- so without thinking about it it was a title impulse from my part. I've picked up the phone and I called his mother. And hiring Mike Decker who -- now I hadn't yet seen her and 630 semis here. I hope to see -- my -- my mother's as she remembered and I asked her I could have -- mile track. And she was very protective and she had mean I don't know -- going to really have to call him. And ask his permission to -- you know he's married and and I said you know I know that's spying on Mary too -- just wanted to say hello. And so I sent an email. And that's kind of subjectivity melt completely global -- significantly and seen in 32 years. Anti milking right back and so we met for lunch. And that would then 2000."

" Yeah and so the two of you are married but things started to heat -- yeah you. And at what point did you two decide that it was time to leave your respective spouses and be with each other. Probably get around it aren't you. Do you feel like you missed out on all those years those 32 years."

" May well not really. I think that it was meant to be that we're together now and not then."

" How do you guys feel about the people that were -- along the way."

" It was something that I have to do. -- you know if that's the best way to go about things you know -- life happens and things happen that you can't control in -- and I think that. This particular situation. It was just met today and my mother has never called me that night. Perhaps. This never would have happened which he called off if they did this kind."

" As they've traumas so -- the very interesting story thank you so much for sharing you with your very well come all right Michelle thank you have a great night thank you used to light. Gonna open up the phone lines if you have a long lost love that you've recently rekindled things with -- call my number is 888. Nine calls him."

" Chatting about long lost loves rekindled -- is -- really cute story about this couple that -- about fifty years later. They both had married to they were actually really young when they first met he was a marine on a Greyhound bus and she was this young girl and it kind of fell for each other but of course they separated you know because of the disk stand cents. And then FaceBook comes along fifty years later. And they're able to find other -- and I he did a little Facebook's search for her. And able to at that point had I think that they've lost their process I don't remember if they're able to their spouse has had passed away. -- founder. And it everything just rekindled it's amazing how from like fourteen. You know 64. Or whatever. That. That same feeling for your first -- doesn't go away yeah you would think fifty years would just finally you know. It would be buried in his home like Steve turner amber -- an ancient but apparently they dad. You know now actually getting married they regionals now are getting married not a deciding where to live because he was and like South Carolina she's in. -- Louisiana that they're trying to figure out well now we've built all these lean and his life and these two replaces have to merge together and they're getting married priests and I had a long lost love that we were in each other's lives in and out of supplies for about ten years. And he was married and then I think I found them on MySpace. And I just said hey it looks like you're doing while I just wanted to say hi. And I didn't ask me questions I didn't wanna engage in any conversation with him because I knew he was married I just wanted to say hi. And he wrote back in the -- Allen started asking me questions. I wrote back and I again I did not wanna ask them questions this this is tears I didn't want to ask -- questions because I was like I don't reciprocate. The answer the questions and move on. Because I'm afraid. It and a developing in this some more email conversations finally he came to his senses and kind of off. Instead I can and can't talk team are sticking to feelings were creeping back up for both of us right now. It was kind of a relationship that we never fully settled. And I don't I just I don't know why it ended actually mean it in it which fought and and then and and -- and and now he's married with kids and I wonder how he feels and I do -- it feels that. He's just move on I've moved on emotionally south. Pretty interesting stuff long lost love email me your stories."

" disconnect because my commitment. From her house. -- meeting without even trying to talk you know have your baby daddy no I wouldn't say I always paid speaking of right here right now."

" Welcome to your time with him -- herself -- your girlfriend is your you know."

" All right all of you who are trying to have a baby maybe got to have fun in the Avant already with us tonight. For metaphysical Monday is Jim O'Neill. Baby whisperer hike him up from the south. Oh it's wonderful to see here. -- you are one of my favorites to -- just so fun and you just give such greats insights for people and and this is always fun when it comes to head to the little babies and so explain to everybody what a baby whisperer is what is it that you do."

" Well if that's that's ebitda. -- bond with your baby before birth and killing pregnant fashion I have many and with -- ask are they ever quit if children how can they concede. If there are pregnant we can anticipate the you know it could be male or female or what is what I did. This baby choose that particular mother or father. There's a lot of help who has been waiting to get pregnant because they want to get their career off the ground. So a lot of times the woman will wonder in her mid to late thirties or forties and -- could be able to get pregnant and maintain a pregnancy until -- found if we speak to. The unborn baby himself for -- that we get a lot of information about timing. And about whether it's going to happen -- can be so insightful. And that's the case we -- when I was in my forties and I was trying to get pregnant and and have children and I did it forty point forty -- how. You agree that. It's it's very exciting to him because I know what I try to get pregnant when I had gotten pregnant what you're looking forward to maintain the pregnancy. My OP HEY and with quite concerned that he never thought I'd even get pregnant but I kept talking to my unborn son and he kept telling me. Over and over that he is coming in when he was coming his. And it really gave me hope and faith in yeah it helped me through that emotional process."

" And you're able to have two children I have 44 and one of 45."

" Exactly and they my destiny and I'm a big believer in destiny and so. It is it is a -- destiny -- have children all by Kelly she's going to elect Sheikh joint you know quicker contents."

" It can't -- I believe even adulterated."

" Now when you do readings for people do you sometimes feel like. Conceiving is not going to happen for them and instead that they should be looking toward adoption."

" or it may be that there can have a hard time naturally conceiving and they need fertility treatment every woman is completely different and it's better in every pregnancies can really different you go. What what has already happened you know they would admit -- that -- ever have another one hour. Say a woman that it really easy to get pregnant once it doesn't mean she'll find it again more on the flip side if she had. A hard time getting pregnant first then the second time might be free so which don't depends. On the woman in her destiny."

" Right -- let's give everybody a little bit -- tester and tell me when am I going to have kids and how many if I'm ever gonna have kids."

" Let me -- take the news."

" News. Here -- are talking about. Here we are at. In October in. You're Angel are telling me that that first Jeffrey was coming two years from now eighteen months to two years from now."

" Two years I have to find guy first. Keep in. Mind but I think that's so soon. Not -- while one that's connected."

" Well you know you have to do your part that if you decide that's too soon you're gonna have to talk to your little one and say you need to wait for awhile. And you'd certainly know what to do to prevent pregnancy."

" Right okay. So when the when the angels say that that's when one's coming to -- like. They see a guy in my future and then a baby you're isn't just that the baby saying I like to come down -- within eighteen months thanks."

" I'm here could question him because. -- some people are are single -- single they had a very good question now I'm hearing that you can that the guy. And up her mind body and -- relationship. Who I call that those guys mr. wonderful. And then you'll be you'll have been married a good years before. You try to get pregnant so he all of this coming fairly quickly for you."

" I mean that have to get married in six months camp."

" Even when we mr. wonderful. And it's a relationship that already has significant Pat's -- familiarity you feel the chemistry you feel the connection. And so often look -- to move forward incredibly fast. And that you can be of the -- of faith and trust that -- you don't deal with just anybody and I mean it's very typical for. Couples who have apartment by the it's a relationship to an event where government only canary. Even you know weeks or -- today meet."

" Right okay well -- I would like to have that connection with someone for short and I just on a fellow at the baby -- system gonna have to. Take some measures prevent that from happening."

" Let me know that it has the right you want to get it you know when we meet our romantic Italy it changes your whole life altogether it's painted -- like completely. No other -- or principles but our goals in -- but we want for the future is where we want to live -- changes."

" So amazing it's like you know those of us who don't wanna get pregnant usually end up pregnant those who wanna get pregnant usually -- I mean it's just it's him you know it's always like that. The way to the nature works -- I think a lot stress inside of us what you know what you're here to do is help. It alleviates some of that stress that pressure. And helped -- to help women conceive so we're gonna be doing that time guy Tim -- with us. She's the baby whisperer. You can go to her website Jim O'Neill psychic dot com that links on my site. Your -- Kim dot conscious have a great book a couple of them actually how to -- your angels and also bond with your baby before birth. -- be taking your calls its metaphysical Monday 88925554."

" If you'd like to comment on tonight's show since -- and email. It's easy to remember Kim -- your time with -- dot com."

" We have the baby whisperer Tim O'Neal on the show tonight we're taking your calls are here. Trying to get pregnant are you are pregnant you wanna know. I'm what you baby would like to say to you than you go ahead and give us a call at 889. -- him hi Terri welcome to the -- your question for camp."

" Am I -- now are going to be having anymore children I have one now and if it's going to be with the same partner as part now. Carried -- O'Neal -- the that you couldn't be okay. Couple could actually carry it that -- Apparently taken a series Harry. Good -- then -- When I'm hearing is set that you're gonna to my children. And -- Tumor children appoint a girl and what's the name. You're currently no plans need to -- first name or first thing initial look at first name. KK. Okay. And no it won't that be with Jenny."

" you're acting carry."

" Kind of yeah it had -- are then Kerry did it the reason for that is because them up frankly -- the EU. I -- about growing relationship and not because it can be any -- fighting arguing but just about current relationship. And and they seem very likely -- someone else the mr. wonderful. And having aid lovely lovely. Future so it's not that there's anything wrong with mister K it's just that you're gonna concern be -- relationship that started happening at all yet. Yeah okay excellent excellent thanks. Ticket goods. It's a."

" Don't -- image you find good and like her relationship going south you know and other related selling quite like good -- the."

" What can I don't upgrade about it with a create about where Kerry is is that she's the way here. That she's listening to her in herself that she is listening to her instinct. In -- our defense saying what is. You know destined to happen so it's the hands -- camp. We we lived lives that are full of transition all the time built for her to be aware. That -- thirty hampering your relationship picked up by the courage to admit that. A lot of curry Bryant to admit I'm -- your relationship so Kerry I'm proud to be."

" Well they don't come had to pick everything at a remote. That's asking them to marquis isn't someone -- good luck you know the end it as someone else."

" C. Annika when you do not know right now nor had -- known him before. In the past -- like time. Well I really appreciate it thank you don't have a Larry think Kelly a bye. --"

" Days here on with Tim O'Neill Richard -- and."

" I can't let him I am pregnant -- and has and I got married aliens are very complicated. Let me work schedule and has these situation and I kind of like your input and -- went to a guy. Is helping break in again to parents' old time and let predicted that the pregnancy. Very inopportune."

" and you're gonna be the correct. Yes and what is the harm your baby bothers me just just -- Spurning out now. You're gonna -- healthy baby. The baby's gonna be about two weeks thoroughly. But -- full term. And you'll end -- are not gonna stay together you're not. And here angels are telling me and and the -- is also telling me that this relationship is already. Winding down and and I'm not think fans stay apart of the -- by. And you will Mary -- is if you're gonna have married about. Three and a half four year. A great guy is he's going to be very much involved with this child -- can I have some more children after that so. This baby just wanted to come now he wanted to commit and it's possible and spend time if you are having on this time being kind of alone for the do it. Well about their sister."

" they're does that plan -- well."

" In regards to. It's spending -- don't -- in regard to what."

" they have not being a part of the picture so you with Taylor and I can I get here. You're not gonna be that they're gonna be about three years before mr. wonderful comes along. So stand is it and Freddie is that there the topic coming is going to get a lot of a lot more time we -- and then -- mr. wonderful within the picture. --"

" Hole right. In -- by. -- right channel this has been fun we have we're gonna take some more calls we have Jim -- baby whisper for tonight's metaphysical Monday. She's the author of bonds which you -- baby before -- before birth which is a great but you could you to get at her website Tim -- psychic dot com. We're taking more of your calls at 888925554. Jim O'Neill the baby whisperer is with us for tonight's metaphysical Monday the numbers 888. Nine called cam high. Hello what is your question for --"

" I am twenty years old and I would -- no longer Adam and we try it for about tenure -- they have children. And none came and has a wonderful man right now but he has but the fact he's so I don't know that children ever in the future."

" And there is this Elizabeth. OK Elizabeth sorry got the name wrong."

" Are right elicited this colonial. I your question. On now what -- first name of the guy with frightening. Sean Sean OK -- and the best -- okay. First. This herb. Don't think it in your life. -- is. Temporary convenience is you're gonna meet another guy who'll. You we will Miree. In these children coming into the net with the destiny. We indicator Cummings -- children that if you destiny it seemed to. And I'm hearing that your ex husband was meant to be a learning experience for you. An end user was let me. And yet it -- effect -- our kids didn't want him as a father that the children's attention and you. And Steve it's girl -- boy patiently waiting until you meet this economy and in if you ask when he's gonna meet him it'll -- 2012. Have more -- joining my time let my right now. He's a great guy and it's -- interesting the indignant. Because they figure explicit in nature and Sean has -- Google mobile mobile all isn't it Korea. Epidemic and you. -- Get your -- yet. You know and that's when he with the spiritual didn't -- you can be teacher for him. And they also think we're -- need to get away with -- well. I'm FF or exploit. Yeah well that that's they're talking about she you can allow her to continue to cost problem but anything that you have two children coming. You'll meet your bank and gotten twelve Ian that they people connector that you're in remarry. And it's just going to be very very happy night for you. Wonder."

" All. Brand new residents -- much think thing I appreciate it I."

" Irony. You're up you're on with Jim -- what's your question. My question is I am just out of my first your marriage and going into my second and financially I'm really kinda scared that -- that I want to have kids. And I guess I'm asking. Does it do I have kids in the near future -- going to."

" He. Able to be comfortable with the idea -- I really wanted but it's gonna -- it's going to be about four years for you. Don't read it it's not any different crowd it's going to be at least four years. Going and when he heard something interesting you're going to have twins. All -- my he's gonna go out there or she has been telling me I'm about twins since we got eight it. You know what I mean she's -- for you she was listening and that's a good example of how. People around -- can also talk to are our babies are unborn babies and our angels as well so. You're Angel in this unborn little girl -- boy had been talking to her. Q right. --"

" Times -- kids have psychic abilities aren't. All my lord this child. Okay. Our irony that you can add twins gonna start in the names. You can stomach Atlantic Karen anything for calling -- think you."

" All right we're gonna take a little break here we have Tim -- on the -- with that she's our baby whisperer. Go to her website Tim -- psychic -- get a private reading also grab whatever books. Especially bond with your baby before birth. When we come back -- is gonna tell you how you can ease some of those labor pains stick around it's your time antivirus and the baby -- Jim O'Neill is on the line with us tonight -- metaphysical Monday. I allies and welcome to the show you're -- and -- what's your question."

" I am actually feeling pretty good about their relationship and and right now and I wanted to know is this child and in my teacher where. This relationship might be Hillary as well let people like and wouldn't -- we need first -- Roger. Yes you guys are going to be near -- and five children I. You know -- think -- the baby whisperer mr. wonderful whisper yeah. I think you that your guy. And I I think in talking about Mary -- holiday are really. Yeah the -- didn't yes he can get on it needs is some proposed."

" I don't know."

" 55 children but I don't see them coming into here like 20/20 -- only I -- I would be perfect your immediate fantastic mom and."

" K okay -- did you want five kids before you called into the shower."

" I'm thinking colleague David if I think I've. You're gonna loving mom and you've got to going to be financially stable and yours sweetie is going to be a great -- so it could work up beautifully."

" Think yeah Indiana and I. What's gonna happen there's gonna have three in and think can handle one more are go for what mortgage twins. Affect. That always happens all right Kim so you say that you have that is something that you think when he should consider when it comes to and beginning labor pains tell --"

" And Arab -- at an epidural. I I -- in the big believer in hypnosis in the end. So fill -- out to our already pregnant. You can consider going for hypnosis to do two things number what can shorten the length of time that you're labor and delivery. And can make -- labor and delivery. -- more pleasant. It works it works beautifully."

" Hypnosis yeah and I am sure a lot of people don't even think to do that but it makes sense of release hypnosis for so many other things like stopping smoking or. Losing wade it makes sense that maybe you could use -- also kinda alleviate that pain. Exactly and a great governor of the eighty -- right Sam thank you Tim O'Neill. Baby whispered go to our website Tim -- dot com grabbed her book bond with your baby before birth."

" Yeah. I said I love you and she says. Thank you the -- But Jim -- yeah golf will continue time with Kim Iverson she's your girlfriend. This is your you know."

" The -- know that you often go to places and sell your clothes did you ever go to thrift store and buy clothes. You know I've wanted to a million times because I have friends and that's all they do now they've by all their clothes from -- stores but I don't know how to shop there. It's overwhelming -- it is there's so much and it's an -- when you find one piece you're not gonna find. Another one just like in in the smaller size or else thought or bigger -- if you need it you know it's just. You kind of stuck I went to restore. When -- visiting the cup action while ago and I thought this off some dressed. It was I loved it it was great. But it was too big and I was looking at the dressed like can I get this altered is that can work and time now. There was like wants is to be big discount a cub offer to buy it farming but in the end I was like you now. I just don't know it. I just don't it's a risk because I don't African -- it to be smaller and there's not another one in the store and it was so disappointing. But the good thing is that so cheap it is sassy -- the benefit tennis yeah out of you can find stuff. In that you light that feeds you. Then it's a complete bargain and a lot of times you know something you could find even -- designer -- news or are just really well made clothes. Still the only thing I can't get over. Times -- tourists now. They need to they stink I think they kind of now honestly -- it like an old dusty musty closets. That's -- have you not gone and to -- I know when you sell your closing stores now there's only one store they -- like it's not traveling. I think -- I noticed limited since -- I guess I must have an overly great and it's not because I just I I can't stand being in the thrifts or for that long because of the because people don't wash the clothes in new before they donate or before they sell back close range. Yes that's kind of my only hang up I have to go with like. And are now like a cup of coffee grinds maybe that I can always now yeah. Curfew stick yeah right and I just constantly. Unmask. I must ask if people ask us -- like oh I'm just afraid of the H1N1. For the -- insult them Mina right it's. Well coming up next. We have an expert he's going to be teaching us how to X how to shop at thrift store the -- techniques -- all your friends were buying stuff from the thrift store. They actually have a message to the madness you don't just walk in and and you find this really amazing -- There's actually -- way to go about as we're gonna learn that Matt did next this is your time to my recession. Give or call 8889 called him."

" Can -- now plans lesbian I totally feel they wouldn't even be here at this -- like at steadying emergence. I."

" Believe it or not there's actually technique to thrift store shopping and with the size Sammy Davis she's an expert. She's also the founder of Sammy Davis vantage dot com a website devoted to making vintage fashion accessible to the contemporary woman Sammy welcome to show."

" I can't thank you for much for having me first tell us why we wanna shop at thrift store. When he got -- at a prep star Paris because of that idea I mean nothing will be. How fox went say that's Salvation Army when you can get like a banana republic great record Kigali is I mean really. There's been no better -- matte that's a pretty good sound okay so that's the reason is because you're gonna find things in they're going to be --"

" Billy and opulent -- about what I what I really like it -- women in fact let's start shopping. Is not quote unquote second hand shop at shopping cart and -- and I honestly have gotten into effect direct and I seen something. There that I saw on the rack at eight and just last season. People paid by -- and it could go to them that this could create that item and if you're lucky that he can be. The person to pick them up -- you know one man taxes and another immense pressure."

" Are there certain sees ands or times of day or days of the week and we wish you should be showing up to be starts stars."

" And that is -- really good correct then because very damp I am every Wednesday. My local Salvation Army and another national. But they had half our day it's very crowded certainly your best interest to go early just so they can. Sector everything you got there and ninety get a line an appetite could create possible. What I opposite gas is that make you can if you can become friendly with the store -- that yet. Yeah they'll let you know why you goods are in the stars he could hear like the bird --"

" OK so then you know a lot of what that would go ahead."

" A gonna particularly one detonated that day. That the EU goods are deliberate and be different go on that day --"

" Okay. And now a big issue is many of us when we walk into threats or were overwhelmed I mean obviously every items unique. And so give us some pointers on when we walk in the door what are we there."

" I love the person I I suggested that no what you wind died before you get back. An 81 and you laid there for black are you why you know a black cocktail that's what I've read it -- that. In mind that when he's going to -- Tariq plan an attack. Did he best start is that they are all. Organize and such attacks and that he had your track action and he had your shirt facts and you have the issue here she. She attacks and you're not it's not rather around every Iraqi art form out. So what I suggested that you have that one -- in -- he can pick up the pilot that you go he's Eric and he sees and you definitely have to operate outside the."

" Okay. So just go in there have years so what we -- it is one more time sorry."

" what I -- I -- what I did say I need I am a black cocktail that's for our evening out that I'd have a blocking didn't start. I don't and the whole star and like okay felt that the issues -- that distract says that the play is okay. How accurately it might be cattle guts and the -- says outlook for the black taxes and usually. Not -- and are not always but usually the -- start a lot of rain the coding by color here no conflict it's your data fact that that if you want something bad -- apparently can just go and that text and and look at -- color balance our elected as good because. If you saw how that strategy. Let's start I'd like black holes yeah you can -- at first three. And equally frustrated because you don't -- what you want you to try a lot of things that don't work. How is battered to lock and happen you know bitten on your mind and I promise you it will unfold the."

" It went up and yeah I definitely get overloaded it's like visual overload -- when I -- and it's like that in -- again I give up IMAP you --"

" Well I kinda straight -- is that if you go with girlfriend. And they -- style you can almost you know you can insurgencies. By -- our company plans right. Like bring -- back -- that he doesn't have their closets. I can go around and be like okay MEI I think you're gonna last that's right and you're like oh my -- that whenever Bob Matt thank you."

" Okay yeah I mean definitely help each other out when your -- and with god girls can now see something there it is to be -- cute on you don't. All right thank you very much when Sammy Davis go to her website Sammy Davis vantage dot com. She's got a website devoted to making vintage fashion accessible to the contemporary. Woman thank you so much this is your time with -- Iverson."

" Solicited a study this is a little warning for women who were thinking about cheating. New research shows that you're attracted to the sexiest guys during your month cycle where your most. -- This means that. If your married and you're thinking of cheating. That the time. Of the month that your really really thinking I'm going to do this I didn't do this kind set up. This -- just so hot and it felt like this since I was sixteen. You run off and you do that you're likely to get pregnant. You are thinking those spots because your third all. Because your body went a baby and by golly it's gonna make one. And that's actually have a different mind yeah I'm not kidding she had a bunch kids on an anti -- bunch kids okay. So I think she had. It's an issue is older than I am the -- an older friend she's in her forties. At that point appreciate surety at six or seven kids my guy I -- at a lot of kids. And I she cheated on has spent guess lacked got pregnant. Yeah got pregnant. And I told her husband. And they end up staying together ends up working out for her little boy who I -- in -- he was five or six at the time wasn't his kids. He was a kid of the lover. -- I don't know I would stay in their relationship a -- man and my woman ran off cheated and then ended up pregnant or even FR a woman and my man ran up and cheated and it getting somebody pregnant I just don't yet. They complicates things when there's kids involved that you have with your. Part to the person your merit which your spouse you have kids look down. Then on Saturday and there's another tidbits with someone else I don't know would you stage now."

" No. I don't know -- if my -- got some else pregnant you had two of them already. Now that complicates things I wouldn't want that drama involves no I wouldn't stay because you know. Obviously he was looking for or something else. About what if it was just like an illicit affair was -- you know one or two time thing it was just that. Like a time it a month -- for going here. You know just seeking. I'll find me a better man. I'm not deal with somebody's baby momma drama when he's my husband forget that outs. And would you state your wife ran off and got pregnant with some on demand is your wife says she wants a baby. She might just do it."

" I've told her wish she said the hagel have won just don't come back. Let's say this also -- the bombshell and we've had it happen in our family. They cousin who really used it now that's okay because -- with a quote unquote a cousin yeah. As of -- but it's happened."

" But I could if they are now now he left he left when she ran off and got pregnant when he Garrity had kids together now that was their first it was. He."

" Well that's easier to walk away from you know she if she if they don't have -- together and she gets pregnant by some other guy that's easier walk away from here but when you have a family. When you if you stay right it's an everyday reminder if you see that -- you're gonna ever and think everyday like this is not my ten. This is the kid that my has been cheated on me to have. I can't really think you'd think that if you're left at that kid every day that poor innocent child but still I would love that but it's I mean it's you know it's would be --"

" A reminder of something I don't remember it now it would be hard to get over. He I agree."

" What a tough one. You instead they."

" You know I think I words. Yeah I think I what I I'm not -- You know my girlfriend when that happened to her -- they worked it out you know they worked it out they -- and biological father didn't really wanna be part of the child's life anyway. He wonders -- to abort. She chose not to. Her and her husband were able to work now and has been so that he would be willing to take that child on his hands how many dads. And he's cute little boy now it's probably. Gosh like data now than half. Sixteenth -- got like ten years -- got a dedicating. It looked like candidate who could it be known that he's not. You know that -- son did people know that land. You know I didn't really know I think she looked like his mom yeah announced all right I don't think that it. I I don't even know if they go around saying yeah and -- and it's not the -- I think people neo. I in fact I know people knew I just think that they just kind of like case without under the ride to mention Everett can. The child's not says okay. Different kind of accidents a -- Yeah Aaron out that's just really tough there to be put you know that's why cheating is. Cheating is so wrong in so many ways and not only is it just like. You know and just a bad moral character decision to do you know just end your relationship before going off in cheating you have. Their capacity or their compassion and the backbone to do that. BBQ should -- even asking you cheap -- get pregnant and in this huge complication. In another huge complication which you come back with the disease and you give it to somebody actually have a for that I knew the family. When I was in high school and then at that data was a doctor would go in treat people in foreign countries. Ended -- contracting HIV Howell cheating on his wife came back. And David to his wife and the Nat is like the worst thing I'd ever heard -- that's you know that's why you can't cheap because it contract something or a baby. And how I. -- baby feet is that. Not a babies Q the that it is I think I can love the child like if my husband cheat on me. And she had a baby and she dropped off on our doorstep. I'm pretty sure I can love that child without thinking of what I don't -- can I wouldn't associate the child with the affair. Our associate adopted his sorry self -- there. -- And over the phone lines what would you do in this situation and if you're suit she tend to get pregnant. Kerry had kids together -- you stay in a relationship 8889 calls him."

" Can you imagine being married having a family. Then one person cheats and get somebody else pregnant or gets pregnant happens all the time Kathy this happening your family."

" Yeah -- actually -- on my uncle. You was married to a world where I would say about ten years. They had street kid. And he cheated and got a woman pregnant with now and then QB --"

" Congress. And then what have been injured so did he did they work it out they stay in a relationship or was it over."

" Well they've separated her wild and then they worked out like that they invited art side of the family to their Britney parties and as kind of awkward situation and how do you react to you know that they're not. My iron on to -- acting like it."

" Yeah out that is so the mom is still in the lives of the twins right. The biological mother and that she's around so who are you related to did the uncle or your aunt. Oh see you're related to him. But I wonder does her side of the family show up to the birthday parties and like her parents and staff."

" I don't really care and and because your genetically related to the kids. Where I can understand you going to birthday parties but her side of the family in Saudi kind of weird. Yeah. Yeah. For a while they worked out sound interesting thank you for your call. -- problem by I can dress. This happened to you."

" Yes but there whereas this summer and into -- and look at what happened exactly. My apartment and I. -- together married eight years. And good -- say is we tried to conceive of several times go under fertility. And everything we came to appoint -- relationship slowly Canon has figured. -- you know it's gonna give us yeah and that I noticed a little bit of distance between him and I and I thought. Can I get -- some battalion know what's going on right -- You know and that's cheating on me. And he got the girl pregnant it is all the time that's terror and that it giving her pregnant. C formal."

" Did you guys -- together is he would turn out."

" I'm -- separated for about a month and you evening to. I figured I can't -- look at it this way -- a way that we you know I'm not able have a child and now he wanna have attacked her the look at every possible way. And it didn't work it out and we stay together -- the pregnant -- right they have the baby."

" It didn't work out all right -- thank you for your call. Didn't. Man hi Andrea. And so this happened which you're dance."

" Yeah I've actually it seems like he's -- serial cheater. The first time that something on how and where it's wet but Airways. Air while much hype that. Wit might at that Eric. She ended up I got as -- either couldn't hear what they. Easily cured that she got on hand. And that he tried to say de LA. How and how -- can -- it or not saying and I inflation stay Red Hat and he -- Barack. They've split up and he's not one and then so earlier -- now we elect not -- see how I mean."

" Well gosh. -- man I'm happy not attracted to men who do that can sometimes you know out that way and now. Thought -- can I. Man all right Andrea thanks for your call. It's crazy I mean it's just such a tough situation when things like this happened we had someone write in saying that they're friend cheated and contracting herpes and I -- just got to be just. Just be honest with each other you don't wanna be in relationship leave my goodness thanks for joining me."