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" So earlier this weekend I receive this email from my cousin I thought I would share with you 'cause I think it's so funny."

" And I imminent preface this by saying I am not a man hater OK I just think this is a funny email. You're gonna just gonna start like that. But the email says ever notice how all of women's problems start with men. For instance mental illness. Menstrual cramps. Men to men told breakdown. Men hope cause is this guy not college -- I. -- And what we have real trouble it's a hysterectomy. Not that funny. It also goes on to say men are everywhere will -- has a man -- mrs. has mystery and it female has mail and it. She has he and it. Matta has at a minute. -- at a them into escape those darn man. I love that when the hysterectomy. Getting his hysterectomy like big guy in gynecologist can -- and -- by the way I got into trouble. When we talked about gynecologists a few weeks back and we mention on the show whether or not you go to an attractive male gynecologist. Actually got an email from an angry male gynecologist. That we were. Aaron is this nests. LA that -- being ignorant -- but I'm just being on nest it would be you know kinda difficult to drop your drawers in front and then good look and yeah and ecologist. And just saying and all right coming up next are you left hot broke mess Steve go out on the weekends with your girlfriend and -- end up just breaking the bank. Coming up find out how you can go out have fun and still keep all your cash in your wallet this is your time with him Iverson. Give her a call 8889 called him."

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" Many a night my girlfriends and I go out that I -- where we end up breaking the bank it's like fifty or sixty dollars later over the weekend and then come Monday like where -- all of our money eco. Well how can have fun without breaking the bank with us tonight is Nancy -- us she's a financial expert. Also the author of hot broke mess says how to have your latte and drink get to Nancy welcome to the show. Me. So how can you go out without breaking the bank it's expensive. To have it on."

" It is expensive and I went through that I -- In my Chinese in my early thirties I wanted to data and half -- and I equipment expenses that he. I was. Spending so much money and I finally had to stop myself and say how much I really spending on the entertainment I'm having fun. And it and -- keeping all of my least -- and and just to really lucky that my budget and when he realized how much money it was blowing and it it was incredible. So I change my ways. You know I think it's possible to still have botnets. Without spending all the money in the bank accounts amnesia and -- the economy we're humans we need to go out we need to enjoy ourselves that we need to hang out with brand. So I I find that -- tight security evening -- a lot well now I try to get a map made instead. I tried to have eight a chunk or two before I go out with my friends you know that we just capital cocktails and then -- we don't. Spend this much money in banks."

" Yeah outlets wanting to my girlfriends wives are doing or like -- we're gonna go out to eat somebody makes appetizers at their place first and and then you go to dinner. That we -- not spending all that money."

" Exactly and I think on the -- that you know it's it's -- out of it once in awhile you don't wanna stay in your apartment every single night. But you should also try to entertain at home you know I do that a lot more. You know I I invite my friend over them and brings an appetite there if someone brings you know a site dash there people -- wine. I'm the end of spending a lot less money and frankly it's a lot of fun."

" Yeah I would imagine you're going in renting some old. Classic movies like even eighties movies would be tons of funds it."

" some pop client by a -- Y name to hang out with your friends it's so relaxed scene. And you know and when you do you go out you know I I've found that. The -- he beat my friends night which is over order even that we wouldn't eat Aaron -- your heels you know -- I get filled up pretty easily found that now I mean -- where a lot smarter about it. And we tried a -- an -- and entree and a half an appetite yeah you know just that we don't order at my."

" Actually if there's four of you may be just ordered three on trays and share them exactly something like that's and that's gonna kinda keep the money. The money costs low and really what cost so much money as he is -- ranking yet that costs a fortune."

" Yeah I mean that's he can run up that huge bill on Macs that's that's why you know having a drink before coming out is it's really good way to go at it."

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" Well it it's at chronicles my -- yeah I but basically I it was personal finance right of the Washington has I was a personal finance disaster I mean I. Did absolutely everything I had credit card debt I bought a cart in the -- A public Condit I couldn't afford with the -- we broke up with -- have a lot we have as a financial nightmare and here I was you know writing about personal finance through one -- those important papers in the country -- I'd finally like I hit rock pop and I had to borrow money from my parents some point and I realized I really needed change my ways so I gotta on the budget I got a financial planner and I just really work that it and I and pay down my dad."

" Awesome yeah I I know. How it is to be really good at giving advice about something but not necessarily be good -- it for your own personal -- elegant hair might now. I am I all right Nancy thank you so much anti trade has again. Financial expert and the author of hot broke mess says how to have your latte and drink get to you go to the website Nancy -- has stopped comments TRE. How to raise their kids. Stick around it's your time with him Iverson this."

" At what point is it okay to tell your friends and family members how to raise their kids. You know and when you see them doing something that you just feel like is absolutely wrong. How do you go about saying to -- should try something a little different for instance African girlfriend he has a few kids. And the older kids are severely overweight okay severely overweight. And she -- young ones who work really just toddlers and preschool and so there's a chance for them to not be really overweight if she were to. Really watch there what they're eating and their health Bryant and I see the older kids and I feel bad for them because. You know it's like at what point you look in the -- one -- you relies on my passion overweight you know because when -- when you feel like you were born that way. At what point you noticed this you know -- eight or 9101112. At what age do you think little girls notice on my gosh. I'm actually bigger girl and a probably are on the aids around eight or counties and in so I think that she noticed at around eight because they can check she went her mom and said mom -- on a diet in all the girls are telling him big. Well of course she wasn't born overweight what happened when she was fed food. From the time that she was born you know because obviously it's not hurt choice she's eight. So it's not her choice to be eating twinkies for dessert every night or. You know deep fried foods everyday and all these foods that are gonna maker over rates -- essentially wakes up one day and little kids at school -- saints were on your big girl. And -- gets old Arnold Arnold or how she schools to control her weight it's not her choice you know when when your kids your fed whatever your parents Biggio. So now she's older. An overweight. And it's struggling with her -- struggling with her her body image at school struggling with all these things and you know. When I look back I think there are a lot of people were overweight but most those overweight people can think back to a time when there were things and right but it's when he. Seven year old woman might say all -- when I was 171819. I was a size five right I act and act and then they realize well but I made a string of choices right had a baby or something break yeah. Lots of Ben and Jerry just and now I've gained thirty or forty pounds or something that they can think back to when I was Stanton all I wore those jeans in that was fun about a block. But what happens when your little girl when you -- a lot because you in your parents Fiji fried food all the time you don't remember when you reverence and because you never worked right in. So now she's just. Teenager and overweight and her mother has the opportunity. With little children. To change their habits so that they don't. And -- curse -- with being overweight without it being down. You know it's like one thing when it was viewed it did it to yourself okay. There's no data blank out it -- yourself and Ben and Jerry. But when you grow up that way because your parents kept feeding you that then you know at one point. You're gonna wake up you a look at America my gosh I have this hundred pounds to lose. I didn't do this to myself my parents did this to me like a burden to put on your kids right. So some -- to me wants to say to my friend hey. Don't give them French Fries don't -- your four year old little -- the French Fries because you know high year old girl asked and she struggles how difficult that is for her. Don't curse you're younger one with the same problem at your very first year older on went."

" How he even began to say that's -- he even began to say. Don't let them dipped their French Fries in the -- Don't even -- and the French Fries put it down no ice cream for the kids like it's not -- ruining them because. I I couldn't even imagine. Waking up looking in the mere ten years old and saying why Powell. Larry have forty pounds a -- and I Pakistani."

" I think you're gonna run into our problem if you say something because you don't have kids. You know an easy here to say don't let the -- says that it there are whining and obviously. Little girl's gonna wanna twinkie or when he got -- target they're gonna want the bad frozen pizza out what I heard as you know it's hard to say no all the time. So I think that you'll run into a problem with -- Hillary you -- that you don't even have been if you had kids I don't know how you would see that."

" Yeah exactly how would you approach somebody and say. You know I really think you make better choices for your kids. It's hard. And -- these choices unfortunately are not. You know the choices are making a feeding their kids these are gonna plague their children for the rest of their lives. And we know how much women struggle with weight we diet you know how many 88% of women -- diet at all times. No how could you imagine being played with -- from the time your ten. Looking in the -- and other kids -- laugh next time you debate can't and you can even feature so all that dude your parents. That's a shame. I don't even know how do you go about -- to the parents -- you're ruining your little girls -- your son's life like they're gonna have emotional problems. And a struggle with dieting for the rest of their -- if you don't. Stop you've got to. Tell them they got to put down a French Fries get on some celery some broccoli -- fat yum. In our but and I mean all that screaming and crying that the kids are gonna do say. -- it's better than the screaming and crying they're gonna do later on their -- I hate myself. What would you rather have them cry about. But I don't know how to go about saying to my friends. Feed your kids that are food please because I don't wanna see them. Played with this life long struggle that's gonna just be damaging to them emotionally. And physically and physically -- and physically. I nominee over the phone like how you go without telling your friends or family members. Hey I think it makes -- different choices for your kids. My numbers 888925554."

" When and how is it okay to tell your friends. How to raise their kids run and this problem that -- front a mine. Her older kids are overweight and she has younger toddlers and I I just don't want those young kids to have the same problems and feeding them nuggets and deep fried fruit is definitely not the way to go about it -- how to go about talking in my friend. And I in a sensitive way it's really tough I don't really know. I bet welcome to the show. So how would you go about talking your friends about about something so sensitive like this."

" I I think you can't bring it up you know obviously in that light. Com that there is a great documentary called for matters. And it kind of takes the approach of what's in the American diet and what didn't. Food and you know combat packaged foods are -- and everything he -- I was thinking that future determined that traditional standpoint and I don't know what her relationship you and your -- have if you could take. I brought the -- they awesome documentary and get a copy of it and say you wanna watch that would mean in trying to get to watch it which you maybe -- And could -- if you eat healthy you can shout ice you can have a few I didn't -- and you'll always be sent down it's. People that are eating healthy and people that are spin and they're eating healthy and are probably very very. You know lacking nutritional right diet and an art can be healthy people and possibly that's a mom doesn't she spent but beach at. Our Nat you know having the results for. So that would."

" He added that sound like she wants to be on the radio yeah yeah. She could get a -- it all right and that. He was like what you say David's gonna eat healthy and make me help you know frets eyes on an anti -- Look at the -- how to go about talking to your friends about something like this."

" Well I mean obviously you have to meet at the very delicate point but I would you know to let her know that it's coming -- can't point a -- being -- yeah. It something that can't go unsaid just because of the fact that. I've been on beef might highlight I know that it aren't behavior. So I've heard it from my family and if she's -- her children that I have problems as they grow up. And further down and they're like second don't have health problems that. Happening. It's a hard subject to talk to somebody about it I mean I think it -- letting you know it's just out of concern but her and her children. I think that she would be okay with that."

" Yeah it's just so tough too because like you said when it's when it's something you learn your entire life sometimes thinks you are eating healthy when you're really not like if -- to follow around. A really thin person you'd realize that. Their idea of -- is different you know I mean yeah. It is really difficult to learn those things that you think -- was -- healthy but not when you drenched sheet."

" Luckily there's the bell and McDonald but in economic don't like oh I'm gonna get ballot it's gonna be -- yeah there's no 101009. Dollar write --"

" I hear you think you could point out. I like the idea of may be saying oh yeah I watch this really great documentary -- I read this really great but here you should read this and kind of nonchalantly. And putting it in front of them rather than saying -- I really wanna have a talk with you your kids are unhealthy I don't wanna see them. Gaining massive amounts of weight and having in a tough time with this so. I like the at the nine and offensive approach I -- thanks for joining me."

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" I think would most of us think it hazing we think. Something that happens within fraternities in college don't think gel yeah -- the majority of the time we think of -- you think of frat. Eating and doing stupid drinking games in fact there were big list of hazing practices that have been reported some on have been. One -- be cool which is potential new members are doused with gallons of ice water while powerful fans -- cold here on them until they were completely dry. Yeah and some cases of potential new members naked -- to stand once thought I'd imagine you could potentially be harmed by the anti freezing cold water. Freezing fans. Another one washboard abscess is one I've heard about happening in sororities quite a bit. This is where female potential new members are sat naked on a washing machine. And the sister circled the fat -- any fat that -- they say this is which after -- before you can become a sister here our sorority. Or they'll or even an in a lot of cases they won't how to set on a washing machine to stand there it is in their bikinis or something encircle all the fat -- It's you know mental abuse basically -- telling these girls they're fat no wonder they have high rates of anorexia -- yeah horrible. And another one of course alcohol a lot of people think of that would they think it hazing shots is a game it's a potential new members. Are forced to drink shops for every time they could not perfectly recite the organization's motto and create. High alcohol poisoning. Branding this one a stupid. This is where potential new members forced to endure letter branding members take a wire hanger molded into the organization's Greek letters dipped it and fire and burn them holding onto a hidden area of the new members scan. And as our ports and as our producer can point that it says well that's really Stephen because now there's evidence. About China. I'm coming Everest being -- woman who actually did a ground breaking study on hazing. Plus a nanny wrote four books on -- he says it's just really one step away from bullying but another -- he says you know it's really not all that bad. That there's actually some good can come from hazing actually kind of agree with that. I don't think all hazing -- data I think that it's about. Five to 10% that's really stupid and bad people need to learned that I myself was -- in fact. 40% of students who -- if you Dan Hayes -- haste before they even hit college I was case my freshman year of high school when I. I like to admit this but I was a cheerleader. -- ha -- And when I made the squad that it senior cheerleaders showed up at my house at dawn. Kidnapped me basically I was in my to jam as messy hair no make up all that right which is like a freshman nightmare put a sign on me -- I'm in new freshman cheerleader. Took all of us freshman -- in the grocery store has play LeapFrog in the aisles. And then took us to school I knew the job -- dirty hair and no make up and bad breath and we had to go to class -- date in our pajamas. You know what the teachers were in on that the adviser was in on that our parents were in on that because they were called the night before to tell us. To tell them that. Is that we get we were to be picked up that's how we found out we made the squat. Was when they showed happening they did all of that and we were the signs and I balloons attached to assaulting a I really think that was bad I you know I mean sure it was slightly humiliating but it wasn't dangerous in any way and in the vast majority of hazing. Is really just fun club initiation. But of course hazing can go too far. -- a chat with an expert next stick around it's your time with him Iverson."

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" It may be forming some hotter than she -- again -- what brought you punch kick don't worry I didn't make it nothing."

" But most of us think of hazing we think of the dangerous drinking games and other types of initiation into college -- client that's not necessarily the case. With us tonight is the associate research professor above ground breaking study about hazing Mary Madden welcomed shaft. -- and so you did -- research study about hazing and a lot of us think that this is something that happens in Greek like that's not necessarily the case as it."

" Well we found that it did happen Greek life but it happened -- not trying to student activities at the college level and at a high school level. So with Kathleen more than that's reflected."

" case awareness hazing happened most often."

" I'm well we found that athletes varsity athletes what the common place. And imports increased -- it happened but it also happened in places like on our club. And other kind of intramural club on campuses then and then other performing arts groups. I'm still really like -- a wide range of student activities and groups."

" Okay so what percentage of students have actually experienced hazing is it just a very small percent I mean. Greek life is typically about 10% at a college campuses about 10% of students that are experiencing hazing."

" I know we can much more it was about 55% of the students actually had experienced that -- in behavior. And those first student that belongs to some kind of group."

" Allow what do you consider hazing behavior."

" I'm what we say it's anything that's expected of someone to join not participate in a group. That humiliate degrade -- drinking or endanger them and that's regardless of the person's willingness to participate which is often hard. Concepts for young people to --"

" So what. It of the people the 55% who -- Hayes. Did you find that most of them felt like the hazing was really abusive and dangerous."

" No actually may have them felt like. It was either tradition or it wasn't all that bad or it was pretty harmless. Or you know it was no big deal we heard a lot of those kinds of things on student."

" Did you agree let them after after doing a study did you feel like a lot of it was just harmless."

" Well it certainly is you know smaller accept hazing where -- not as much potential for harm. But it's often difficult. To gauge how harmful something can be either mentally or emotionally to somebody. And oftentimes. College student under estimate the physical rest in -- and some other things that they do."

" did a lot of the students before they were -- know that they were going to be haste."

" Well interestingly we asked you know were you aware of that -- behaviors. In this in the group you actually before joining us about a third of them said yes they were somewhat aware of that they take years."

" Only a third I'm actually shocked by that. Yeah I would only more would now -- I think more we know just because it you know traditionally if you're going to go into an organization at least some of the older members with daily -- when I join this is what they did demean others like a little bit at -- affect us around."

" Yeah an accident that some pressure on organizations to. He would keep up what they theater or cause you know traditions of the organizations."

" Right okay. After doing this study what was the most surprising thing that you came across."

" That most surprising thing for me was that. Students to experience that hazing a large number of them just didn't even identifiable as hate that they wouldn't associate network with the -- The haters that they had been involved --"

" You know I didn't even realize that I'd been -- Intel I was preparing to talk about this tonight on the show. I was taste when I was a freshman cheerleader had no idea that it was hazing -- really started thinking about it more because. Aren't what I read a statistic that about 40% of students have experienced hazing even before getting to college. I thought while he was -- part that 47%. Sure an -- I was. But the -- I went through wasn't dangerous I mean slightly humiliating because we had to go to school on average Amma has with no make up and -- breath. But it wasn't dangerous except the people sitting next to me I haven't talked to. Until what --"

" Yeah that it yeah I'd say it's a lot of times adults will say well I. I didn't think about that the pilot back."

" Yeah and -- Well thanks for -- the show with us tonight Mary mat and against -- associate research professor in the college of education and human development at the University of Maine she directed the national study on student hazing. To the ground breaking study on hazing across college campuses and student groups in 55% of students have experienced hazing. In college not just the Greek like go to the website hazing study dot org coming up next our guest says that hazing is. One step away from bullying stick around us is your time -- Iverson."

" About 55% of all college students experience hazing. In some fashion with the size Hank -- he's the author of four books on hazing among them broken pledges. The deadly ride of hazing and they hazing reader. He's also an associate professor. At Franklin College tying Hank. How are you excellent thank you so you think that hazing is really just kind of one step away from bullying."

" I I do it that there is a difference in that -- Is to get into a group -- your new cover you'll do anything to want to be long -- can happen anytime anyplace that's. It and if there's anything supposedly good about -- it's too welcome you into a group it whether it's in a perverse way or. In in a minor -- making you aware of silly things where bullying it's is simply to humiliate you."

" Right and to kind of send you away from the group. Differently it is tightly you may may be deterred you would -- pariah right okay so there is some benefit to hazing is -- it they not a welcoming but. You say the --"

" Problem is that the benefit two the the dangers can outweighed the did the benefit of getting people into the group there's more positive ways and mentoring ways. To welcome people -- group with no one hurt and no hard feelings deadly using -- Well this year the kind of ever fingers crossed and that it's the first year there's not been a collegiate death. Do they hazing since 1970 and some years eight or nine deaths so you often because alcohol involved. So this of this property. Big year and that maybe some people are getting the message about raising."

" Yeah so and typically the deaths are related to alcohol."

" Are -- yes about 82%. And the others would be accidents taking people aren't kidnappings and they get hit by a drunk driver or you know paddling and beating. So that's and then that's those are kind of a trusting in the people don't know their own strengths don't know that beatings can actually. Killed because they went through it themselves and survived it."

" Yeah I actually read that a lot of sororities are doing now."

" It exactly and there's there's been kind of an upswing but there's been a couple reported that Latino. And African American sorties and in male fraternity of all kinds."

" Where some of the differences between high school and college hazing."

" It's good question because -- school -- is kind of more to it gotten much more violent since about 1982. When it started tracking -- these things. And those who have been ratcheting up since about 95. We're this year we've seen a couple of cases of Fidelity's. With -- sodomy and so for now that the athletic level. And it's been a hot that he appeared here in Indiana where I live that Kabul -- school where a victim of or -- The alleged victim of a sexual teasing. Had the perpetrators getting off with no jail time."

" Why do people even think that's okay. When it comes to hazing reader why -- anything dangerous."

" That they went through it themselves. And if you went through it and and is it had no meaning or. You were kind of an idiot for going through it -- out you. Do you view go along with that windows in your group wanna do it to somebody else for. Whether it's for revenge or whether it's because you believe it's a traditions. That that's up for grabs."

" So -- do you think that we should be stopping all forms of hazing."

" I do it and I think there and point fingers we should be sporting that the commissioners of sport. Major League sport pro football sport where this -- kids are seeing this and not understanding there's -- disconnect there but that. What the pro athletes are doing is going to stop short. Sexual hazing and so forth for the most part. Whereas -- high school level it's anything goes and they're not mature enough to stop the."

" Us. Wow yeah I know I understand I'm IDC how. Yet he allows some hazing house -- the students are just gonna go overboard."

" Right and it always we saw in the death of Matt Carrington at Chico state. That students were not giving him alcohol that night they were giving him tons and tons of water -- disturb the chemistry in his body. As the students if you tell them not do one thing they'll find another way to days."

" And they think it's perfectly safe but it is now. Are actually end it in this great group treatment reality. Skis and got a little bit of a cold -- break Hank -- thank you so much author of the hazing reader and three other books about hazing. Go to his website Hank -- that's -- WER. Dot com slash blog but -- does get into me. That's season after all coming up next guy says you know why it's hazing isn't all bad bad there are some positives that come from. Which -- the nexus is your time to -- percent. Even chatted about hazing tonight and not all people think hazing is that in fact with us tonight is Darren rice he's the former member of a fraternity. At Florida state university and the author of the college memoir series. -- tire and hazing one outline how we did it and why we did it Darren welcome to the south. Figure out a year or at a frat for three years and see what were some of the heating method you guys use on your pledges."

" Yes Serbia -- weeded out been which they could push pull out. Wolf it's usually this would happen at night in the dark withdrawn Brothers armed with night like flashlights. In your face yelling at you. Com during a week which is typical Monday which is when -- would take buckets. -- sour milk run a urine catch up hot dogs and don't probe of the pledges who would then have to lay in the -- do pushups in snow angels. The the typical space invaders which is when -- captured with pledges. When did repeatedly how the football what what future and we had a couple baseball players with attorneys so we can imagine the amount of -- now. Our what teachers strike in their skin and not. Pretty down at all."

" And I'm coming -- this sounds pretty dangerous."

" You know danger. I wouldn't go left or. What is something he wanted to do. Repeatedly."

" I mean -- T shirts being thrown at you what if you were to strike an -- You know -- like well like the lip or like or kidneys I mean onetime. I bruised my kidneys it hurts I got a second mark for three weeks like what a -- you know what he's baseball player 190 mile an hour wet -- the guy. Allison you -- his kidneys."

" Security gate is down badly -- problem based on what future does collapse on impact. I'm not quite as second UV the recently that it doesn't feature the same four -- saw an article about like I don't think that was a concern."

" What about a wallowing and somebody else's you're and I mean that doesn't seem like it's very safe although I think -- is -- sterile. And that's something I don't know for some reason you can you can -- it -- you have to -- Interesting so you really think that hazing is okay and that it shouldn't be something that's -- that's bands."

" I think you're in the communities like there's victory. But there are some positive -- one of the things we wanted to do with -- was really to develop broader and more -- are. Come true brotherhood can grow organically on its home it. Sometimes it can -- years to develop but when you put people under situation of the arrested the other common hardship they're releasing the bond quicker. And that was something we could accomplish with agent double what I don't think because. The other thing lot of it also gave the -- tortured. About joining me you want directory committee we're gonna come around or can just rewrite the benefit if someone willing to go through some of these things. They're gonna have a person now would we want right they are going to be contributors as opposed."

" Well how can we prevent sororities and fraternities and other organizations from hazing in a way that's going to be dangerous."

" Common sense I mean from the that they earlier comment on the program that they if you read about it it's stupidly drinking. I mean that that is something that can be controlled. You don't have to force these guys basically. Point out that there is not necessary but the closeup. Look. Itself and make them at the point that we would miss guys streaking naked passes went out -- and the thing that they. Or not it'll -- yeah."

" I hear yeah I mean I didn't get there is some level of hazing that would be okay and then there's some that just really needs to be -- I think -- definitely some education. On all of that college like extreme dot com that's where you can grab Darren -- books thanks for joining us tonight."

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" Thanks for joining me tonight it is Monday so it is Monday -- to my days are a little bit messed up because I've been sick but tonight on the show with us for metaphysical Monday. We have Suzanne morrow high seas and."

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" Oh interesting. And by the way you ten years ago urea late thirties because I've seen you don't look you. There's no way I would never guessed a -- late forties now."

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" I would highly -- be Ali yeah you definitely look about ten years younger so maybe if -- guardian -- All right well we're gonna open the phone lines of -- came tomorrow on the line with that she is a psychic medium so if you want -- calling and the numbers 888922555. Forum a little -- and let her do all the talking tonight have a dot. This is your time antivirus and we'll be right back."

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" Intuitive teachers seizing came morrow is on the line with us -- give a question. Maybe regarding your future your financial life your love life and number 88925554. Gonna have a little fun here. Hello Jessica. I -- out of season which question."

" I'm well I am. Getting older. And and -- We asked. We have capped another that it acted. And well we've we've been trying to make it to support it and that doesn't FaceBook and MySpace. Went out and then -- changed is that it. Don't let -- marry me BJ about it around -- relationship to single blown out. Yeah. Error there I didn't have been mixed by. Any situation though."

" So he's telling you that -- he's saying you that he wants to marry you but on -- he went from in a relationship to single. Correct. Without consulting yeah. Did you guys get a fight break up."

" And I know it -- that her explain how it would talking and texting and everything and wonderful you know we we get along really well when things are going great I mean -- that thought they work by."

" It and I read its status yeah I -- on all -- that it. Yeah season what do you think."

" Well -- about you know -- Chico on FaceBook and you see. And did my first outlet that was to -- you read that -- tune you know -- Turn you rock -- disappoint you return your way. I'm more provoking. And so you know I mean he just under a lot of stress. And then what I what I see -- and that he has these days where he theory at pretty short time maybe hours making states that. Where he inherited a question do. And so that I'm very casual -- you know where he and -- find some trouble is they don't have anything to."

" You used to looking you I think I think it's a provocation I think it's more of that then anything to really worry about however packed them. You know for you actually see who is the act. That -- short girl was short on care or -- you know. With glasses so that is that you're not your daughter. Is act."

" I don't wear glasses and I'm espionage shorts so I don't think that."

" Canada yet -- are you blind at least. I -- audio. News."

" You don't have a do you have a child right do I have we have I have four actually -- you have a little girl with. Glasses a black you know -- out. Okay and is there somewhere in your life in Marek."

" Yeah and he's he works said at this -- and we don't talk."

" Very -- That's very interesting. That's what kinda act correct about when he went for stricter ain't. I -- didn't have a girl with blonde hair and glasses. And and had been named mark and so that's why app -- and what elect Arnold is max heart. Want -- to that question. To get going to be can't beat that person yankees' interest it'd."

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" Just do you think that the guy you're talking to you do you think that the soldier. Is interested in somebody else like maybe this blond haired woman."

" The ticket I I don't know he's ever edit and I'm here all that I know is what -- tell me your Serb. Well and remember it is currently -- That we those wonderful too -- to -- now he's spent more time at me than it is family. You know he's buying Christmas gift for my girls who are not even his. You ain't bankers and gets from -- data and make my as I hated. You know. You know he's making he's he's showing me that you are making an effort but. This other thing that he's doing makes me. You know -- I'm on my status I'd like I literally ship. I I even put a ring on my my finger that I even wedding ring. Or -- entering. That showed everybody. That I -- with the kind -- border yeah right and I spoke -- because I was having promised what and beating up on me."

" Thank our great market we have to wrap this up season so I really. Good it. Susan go hand."

" I really don't feel like I think that he is showing you he shows you where they are interesting that it's being on -- that is not. 88 I think it was just to get -- out -- you if if anything out and just making trouble could be elected -- hack into -- and didn't for a I mean it's just not something that I'm concerned about okay. Okay track track your heart. And error that. That whatever happens you're gonna be able to handle and really -- know better than ideally you have your overwhelming situation and you can peel back. Don't -- little extraneous things get your way --"

" Right Kathy thank you I hit area. FaceBook. The demise of so many relationships. Occur. How many I didn't happen ever say that it and I see that yeah I mean with FaceBook that's what the big issue is you can't just -- status without the conversation topic to think hey yeah we really hit it right yeah I'll ask -- right seizing Tim -- is -- she's an intuitive teacher also the author of channel 1137. Messages from the universe go to her website season came morrow. Dot com it's metaphysical Monday we're going to be right back."

" For metaphysical money tonight we have season came morrow she's an intuitive teacher psychic medium. Author and mystic. Christina hi. Alice isn't what's your question."

" I'm not I am currently preparing my application or it pharmacies act like -- our program -- Qatar and January. A little and I have the barriers in my past that I am happy to explain. That can possibly. Allotment. That I applications and imprisoned. Now checkered record. I'm reading it. Place your point that out from like four years ago and they don't make me sound like a very good or at least you have a records. I mean one mr. cart and one misdemeanor but that out -- he didn't murder anybody."

" Actor early start -- on that -- bad girls club for some like that."

" I play what I feel like for either is that see -- these are. You may think you're not great on carpet event on an antidote to make it different. Well look it helps you -- in -- now that you get cute you know write your explanation. And that's going to be satisfactory. You feel actually very mature and like what you're talking about you know a lot of people have something like addicts it's a little sketchy it's not horrible -- But -- feel like -- a lot more mature now even and you -- and and you know. If you're connecting it G-8 if you change it in your cat cracker. And if you'll change your attitude about it that can actually -- to get the whole world. Oh look at like outlook edit like I'm me I'm different I'm older I'm more richer -- art department is expanding at a partner and however that you know whatever your center -- and be honest -- and on the department and the current."

" And that's where that's where you approach sixty I know that. If somebody came to me they said well I really want this job or something is an inning and I look to date they have police record and they -- that was my -- it wasn't this wasn't that. I don't think I'd be as inclined to hire them if they just said to me you know lap I was younger I made some mistakes. I mean I've I've changed I've worked on this I understood the air."

" Back putting a lot of time energy and money and completing applications and it up like stop -- that they that I. You know -- exceed did you vehicle they viewed it you know get a triple because. Everything except that just that's my psychic feeling and it is that it will be on queries and it's something that you wanted -- I'm really elected. And capacity right now holding. I have and apple made me a lot of congratulations. -- went well and I was single letter well I've been electric fifteen years and it is possible I'm. So. Twenty -- the heck out of me because -- really thought he yelled at them from the eighties and much can you know being muttered it identity. And it you have to Carla. And so that's where you are it is so let me look at this a little bit I think he's doing as -- A player party and then you'll be doing something else but also what Welker for. -- that there are trying to recapture your last year. And so watch -- economic future election back -- it it's wasteful or your energy wasteful prix here. Life in your time that you could be. Trying should be the person that you thought you were it'd be at this point. I'm -- did -- play for your because you're gonna that you really."

" Right Christina a lack. Of a fight yeah. I with the size -- came morrow again she's an intuitive teacher psychic medium. Also the author of channel 1137. Messages from the universe and Sudanese did you have another book."

" Yes except that it I have wondered that medication guide specifically for people who make it United States okay you want -- I don't like you're -- it. The other one is called dead on. Your story or medium Barry and it just just bad at this series this story is my inner encounters and didn't get people."

" Very interesting I'm a big proponent of meditation I think everybody should do a little bit I can't act. -- seeding -- morrow is on the line what does this is metaphysical Monday here on your time that you might percent."

" Psychic medium Susan -- morrow is on the line with us tonight hi Karen which --"

" I am -- you know. All have this situation it's a son that's sixteen and I boy trying. -- It's true that they just they can't stand each other and they're really pushing everything to the edge. And I don't I think that's out there trying to make speeches. While the other hosts -- AMR it's ridiculous."

" Okay so basically you're having a problem with your son. And your boyfriend and you wanna know what's gonna happen."

" Can't get well -- about question that -- and it just simply jealous. Well it's not unusual for a certain -- be jealous of their mother's boyfriend or even her father's. Actually trying to nature's way. I am so you know he can at least take some comfort in the fact that that -- a compliment that you're gonna actually let you even though he's been badly. The other thing is that you know what I feel like your quick and really does happen of course you're on button and that. -- problems he needs to learn to back up and -- and I know that you're unprovoked and -- pushes his button it back. Understand the app that that is just the product of age and immaturity. And so you're like -- it would take tyrant and I hear you're back in the middle. You have to support it -- He -- honestly may have to give up the boyfriend at least they're currently. Not to make it go away completely but at least -- with your parent. Because. You don't want to know what should change can be damaged that relationship. And that's what you're risking she's -- your quick and it's okay."

" You're welcome but I. The series and came Mars with us on the line and -- and one thing that I know about you is that you predicted. You're at the mayor and the death of your husband's. Gosh I don't know if I'd wanna know that."

" Well it didn't matter I want it now like it now -- premonition about here's what happened and you what year it would be added -- exactly what day. And shortly on the DL but it was. There were a couple of things about it that it turned out to be good paying you one lies it was starting to guide me toward. I'm -- in knowing what you know what I get our. On the at this thing lives and he is it was and it -- be you know I had it and he's cute aren't yet in his death. And a lot of people have because I felt like if I had committed and that it incurred."

" Yeah and I hear. Suzanne one last thing he said he had a little the at a special offer."

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" You wanna hear funny story would love to do so this weekend well -- I'm a little ill have been ill this weekend started last week really I can't seem to get over this -- I can. Here at I don't know if anyone else can't. But I did what got a little desperate as we can I typically don't -- medication I try to avoid it I just take tons of vitamin C and try to drink lots of water and -- sort of thing. But I got desperate one night in the middle and I couldn't sleep I couldn't stop coughing it was really bad and I remember I had some nice quell. So I get after it probably 2 o'clock in the morning I get up. I get the night -- you have a nightclub has a little plastic cup that you poor -- and -- until liquid version. Who doesn't take that they have liquid gel caps. I next time -- I guess I mean I I always just thought of it like costs are -- ninety mister OK well anyway I had a certain style apparently -- old fashioned. Growth. Album well next time I will get the caps because I take a shot of the night quell the and I go back to -- Well the next morning you know I'm real drowsy when I wake up and I typically try to stay away from Michael because. The next day and fairly in I'm lacking but luckily it was like Saturday in in our Sunday or something's up. And my cat is normally run in around the house by 7:8 o'clock in the morning doing your thing jumping up and down on the band's running around some more. But I know she sleeps all morning on. Hands. Yeah when I looked over at her her little for defer around turnout was low -- time. She'd jumped up on the Karenna -- night. And drink it she lifts the cap because I didn't -- and I just took the NightCall put it down and you know -- and in my grandma. Half asleep trying to get more sleep I'm drowsy and I just really wanna sleep. And she apparently licks the capped clean. And and hinted at a drowsy chat all day it was so funny she's trying to open our eyes. -- That ad was funny. And yet like the little -- on -- first I knew she'd drink and I'd like I -- believe you did that I looked at the cap that was totally clean I don't know why what compelled her to drink an. I don't know what was in the -- That she thought was tastier something that against -- the strangest things back. But -- she was key issues kind of -- and that sat down her and I both were like it's -- it -- And that funny yeah yeah. Lesson to be -- take the gel caps -- rinse the cap if you're gonna be taking some Michael Yemeni pets around a version and -- with that drunk animals. Don't call peed on me -- on purpose OK I can hear it now that male coming and by the way the show has a Twitter account now. I know I was a little slowed of the party thing. We have it now so. It's twitter.com slash your time with stand the cool thing about is that Jill and I both update. Every you know we're talking about on the show. So if you follow us on Twitter you'll know pretty much moment by moment what we're chatting about you can chime in three Twitter will even if your colon laugh and if your comments off -- My even mentioning on the show. So that you that we you can avoid calling him on the very busy phone lines you follow us on Twitter so tweet tweet everybody. At twitter.com slash your time we camp coming up next. Maybe feeling a little down because it's winter while function wait your way to happiness stick around it's your time it to my percent."

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" It's a pretty strange story for those of you where basketball lover Steve Nash who plays for the Phoenix Suns. And he welcomed his third child and first son into the world this weekend and and the very next today he announced his plans to end his mayor hinged. What circumstances. Would a person and their marriage the day after babies born. Look like I'm."

" You ask that mama's baby daddy is maybe you're. Don't ask it'd be read only thing I can think -- if you're gonna file for divorce. Or announce a divorce the day after your previous foreign my guess is that they became out and you looked out and said. That is my kids -- act now. -- and it I don't understand what other circumstance. Where it would be okay to announce her divorce the day after your son is born and I understand like the whole. Well I wanna you know would be there throughout the pregnancy. -- don't and my marriage until the baby you know until. We get -- certainly don't with the day after the baby's -- you wait maybe another three months I asked it must've been bad because look how about it looks in the media unity in like it's a bad situation have yet to get out immediately after the baby -- yeah the date after he says that. I only want good things for -- going forward I'm focused on ensuring that our children understand how much they're adored and loved by asked. As they continue to adjust to these changes I would ask that their privacy and ours is a family be respected as we move forward. This will be my only statement on -- Did not mention my baby's not mine. Are rich -- That's your name on not fun and yeah. You know this happened my cousin why it happened my cousin she's in an interracial relationship she's right in fax her and her husband I -- look like -- Heidi Clinton. Maybe not as beautiful but pretty darn close my cousin -- I think is gorgeous and she looks. Debt tied to me she I've always had two looks like tight -- She and that married to be very very dark. And their first son. Came out a little too light for Sam. Old Hayat. And he was like -- listen I am a very dark black man that baby doesn't look like it even came from. How and it was a big source of contention and their marriage because she was like. I can't help she's like I'm -- I'm reliant. You know there's a possibility that it got more my genetic -- Damn he did not believe and I mean tied for the longest time it was a big family drama. But you know we looked at the kid and we thought he certainly looks like he's mixed like he doesn't look. It's only like his mother he certainly has some he he's he's a gorgeous -- of pressure to pictures you're gonna I mean he's. Gorgeous isn't. Based they did stay together they had another child that child is bit darker. But. I mean you know I I for I'm generation like come from interracial relationship and that. I have three other cousins were also half Vietnamese. I look the most whites. Yet the other three got a lot more Asian that I dead yet we're all equally you know seats currently fully tell. But you can certainly tell -- the kid is mixed. News for Shannon and entertainer. -- basketball Blair's son that there are a lot of other about our players on that team. And maybe Steve asks why. -- visiting among others when they came out. Did look like Steve. Out of danger alma. Can you imagine our. -- and and and there's nothing else it could be you really now I don't think there's any other circumstance that would. Where it would be okay for you to announce divorce the day after your baby is born you kidding me. That edited down hill fast -- came in just been so angry just like act it is not mine I getting divorced I. -- The Stanley -- gonna come out eventually Steve we're gonna now. -- not in mama's baby daddy's maybe call laureate like I said that over the phone lines I wanna hear from yummy maybe we're wrong. But I can't see any other reason why you announce divorce the day after your baby is born and -- you just really suspect that that child is not yours. Phone number is 888925554."

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" Powell can you see any reason why Steve Nash would leave his wife beside the fact that maybe that maybe just doesn't look like him."

" No it has. I am I cannot I -- I reread my about it Filipino and my -- flight -- and you can how IMAX. My trip and his wife and our chips or at. Look nothing like I mean not."

" It looks like him so well there are only -- quarter Asian now right. Now they wouldn't they wouldn't. They wouldn't necessarily look Asian that they only have a course sometimes happened -- I do have a properties according Japanese and she looks. Just as Asian as a mom does actually but. You know in this case Steve Nash against his wife actually is Latin. And she's from somewhere you know like Argentina are. Brazil are are -- some some -- like that I'm so I asked about the kids would look a little mixed. You know to some degree has twin daughters about they're gorgeous but I just think that that they became outlook and a lot different."

" And cry. -- problem. We haven't I mean okay even if you're having problems up to that point would you file for divorce the day after."

" Conventional. Won't know how that have to Deke. I -- didn't cut down on that birth certificate not -- has other Arab."

" OK like maybe he thought she would retaliate if he left earlier. You know like maybe they were having problems all along OK I can maybe see that that's the only other reason why it's easy way to. To the day after -- that person to think it is like signed sealed delivered his name is on it. Because any later you know she if you were -- have left earlier. And she could they what you're not to doubt I'm listing nobody are enlisting someone else because I don't think she's obligated to you."

" Not actually is Steve Nash has a bunch of money would want your child -- to have his name on. Yeah crazy thanks Erica and hey Joe what do you think the situation."

" I hit. It Miley had a baby and did look like me -- that's of the reason is yeah. I would definitely like they do -- DNA test and I think that well it wasn't my kid our mistake absolutely debating it. I."

" Okay I mean sometimes I don't know if you needed DNA test sometimes it's obvious. -- picture and some that might be the case I mean that's why he's high talent out of there thanks to -- all -- you."

" is just crazy I don't know of any circumstance where man gets the pass to divorce his wife the same weekend that as babies born. I mean the seriously the only way that I would agree with him that I would say okay that's fine as a top baby obviously came out not looking like him just like okay. Iraq was clearly cheating on you. And then lied about all this time. Or maybe what it was was. Because he had the best game was like you mentioned right after it right of the Bastia so eight you know he clearly what it wasn't too -- I wonder if she didn't disclose an affair but was already pregnant you can't do a TNA tests than babies in the -- I wonder who is -- mentally. -- the entire time it's like okay will this baby comes out it looks like one of my teammates not quite like Mena that act then obviously you know this baby is mine. They may be held out thinking there's a chance the baby was his. And we're just speculating causing rivers. -- all the shows up on TMZ tomorrow I."

" Steve fashion maybe not as a while Lori. Allegedly as heard on your time -- said she tweet did at. Twitter.com. Slash quicktime with GM follow the show thanks for joining me."